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 GBV is volatite in SA, to an extent that it's become the norm.  Perpetrators know that they 're above the law.

Abused woman sharing her experiences and seeking help ( This is current🤔🤔). Your feedback matters. 

("Anonymous :Good day,, i am struggling with a verbale and emotional abuse he has threatend to kill me a few time and its my husband,, he can perhaps have an pi polar disorder and he is adhd we havea son and he trunts 2 next year in march he has also headbuded me almost but i went next door to my neighbors house one saterday morning because he doesnt want to help me get water and food for our son we havent done grossarie shpping that day and we had water outiges,, one day he would be nise a few hours later he would hate me then he would call me his wife then he would shout and scream at me i am a stay at home mom when he met me i had a job and i was doing well for myself we where in love and i really didnt know that he was this type of person he accuses me of things i say but he is the one that lies over and over never wants to compremise or work things out always calls his mother in what should be a grown up conversation but he lashesout and swears at me infront of our son and he wont stop. He isthe provider in the house but i cook and clean and look afterour son unfortunately i do not have my liscense my learners expired when i had to give birt csection... He has threaten me with devorce alot of times and his sister is a lawyer they have started the idea of devorcing me but never does it and said they will take my son away becausei am stay at home mom. He would tell me i am lower than shit and i would never become anything but when i was retrenched and had my package of 80000 payedout to me i was everything to him now he hatesme and thinks I am a gold diger but i hardly ask for anything just toiletries. I cant live with my mother and i cant live with any family members becausethey already full house and has no space. This is also my home we are renting and just like everything half is his half is mine we married in community. I have no idea what to do but i have started getting my learners and my license and then a job. Can any one give me advice???? I have struggled so many times with his anger he will be drunk and shout and scream at me with our baby in my arms it was a year ago he would be so drunk that he doesnt stop shouts in my face my reaction with my baby in my arms wasslapping him trying to protect us this has happened only two times afterwords he wi swear me call me names and say see what monster you are i have learnerd out of my mistakes and he does not trigger me any more i would rather go to my next door or i will ask the security card to please patrol past our house my next option was to call the police because he threatens to kill me. Then after a few momemt he will say sorry and then he would be happy again he is on medication serdep 100mg a day drinks pain pils and drinks every day..What can i do in my situation sorry cor typos or spelling my phonesscrean is broken so i cant type easily.. ")

🤔 This is so sad and heart breaking. Being in the group, lve realized how blessed l am and has volunteered to give counseling ang and advice. Sometimes privately, 1 on 1.

In most incidences, victims needs time out, protection order and give them is professional counseling whilst sheltered anonymously. Yes a police case will be opened, with no further action.Women gets killed almost daily. Stats 3 in 5. We need men to join  in call of action!!!!!!! 

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