Time to voice out on Domestic violence

I would like to share an experience of my life and how I have overcome it by taking a bold decision to walk out of marital life. I am from india where we strongly believe in the institution of marriage but over a period of time I realized that woman should not lose out on herself, her strength, her belief and dignity just by holding on to the marriage when things are not clearly working out between the partners.

Unheard Unseen unnoticed to your neighbour

Pain you go through every day every night every hour

Cheerful, Delightful and full of life is what you appear

Hard to distinguish the smile which disappear

On a Friday evening @ 4 PM, nicely dressed in a Black T-shirt and faded jeans, I was sipping Strong Tea when my friend suddenly asked about bruises on my hand. I just smiled and replied “Fell down while taking stair case” He gave me a perplexed look and said” I am sure this is not because of falling down from a stair case”. Memories with mixed feelings anger, sad, confusion haunt me today.

Why did I let it go? Why didn’t I voice out?

Was it due to my strong belief in Marriage?

Questions are still unanswered but experience says it is okay not to be okay sometimes.

 It is okay not to smile and bring out the tears hidden in my eyes.

Had there been an Edit button in my life

Would have exposed the Male Chauvinism which was rife

Today I am penning down my own thoughts for a reason to create awareness amongst other women who are still the victims of Domestic Violence…Women out there

It is okay to get noticed, get heard

Do not shy away from saying “You are not okay”

Your self-respect is at stake

If you allow your man to behave like a notorious rake

Send a strong message to all the Losers out there

Hitting a Woman in a closed room is not Manhood

This reminds me of an incident which I read years back. Husband and Wife are renowned doctors in a reputed hospital, making good money. However, the wife faced domestic violence at home for Dowry in spite of being a doctor and earning at par with her Husband.

Question still unanswered…

Why did she let it go? Why didn’t she voice out?

Was it due to her strong belief in Marriage?

I am still pondering over these thoughts…

I moved on…

With an objective to increase the awareness ...  I am sharing my experiences

Man can be superior to Woman physically but it can take a minute, hour utmost a day for a woman to realize it is not working. That moment if it comes, no force on the earth can stop a woman to take the decision.

Woman deserves respect, care, concern and Compassion.

I think it is time for any Woman to strongly confront in such incidents. Woman is not an object to be treated mercilessly

We all know that women  still face Domestic violence at home and are still uncomfortable sharing it with anyone

 We seriously need to create an awareness on these aspects. I have gone through few stories in the forum and please take a bow from me for being such a strong pillar to the struggling women.. I will be more than happy to participate in any such events where we are working on women's support and rights