"TILL DEATH DO US PART"

LTN NATION! Like a beast that grows with every bite it takes, divorce grows in popularity and becomes more “normal”. Without even realizing it, many young Christians are viewing divorce as “a viable option” just because they know so many people who have taken the plunge. Watching children’s lives being ripped apart, turned upside, and thrown into shambles is heartbreaking. I pray with all my heart that the people closest to me (me included) never go down that road and I pray none of you ever must go down that road either.

With roughly 50% of marriages ending in divorce, I’m sure many of you know someone who’s been divorced. I don’t know the details of your situation and in no way am I trying to bring up a sensitive and difficult subject.

My prayer is simply that we can take a step back, evaluate our current convictions, rethink the direction we are heading, and strive to think, live and act in a way that best glorifies God and represents the gospel. How can we singles prepare ourselves for a future without divorce? How can we best be ready for a marriage that represents the gospel and honors God and Christ? How can the 50% be avoided?

Here are some tips to help strengthen your marriage when you feel like the challenges are taking a toll:

Study the word: Think of the Bible as a road map. If you are traveling to a new place 10 hours away, what would you need? A map (or a GPS with directions). You need a map to show you how to get from A to B in the fastest most efficient way possible. Without a map, you won’t make it to your destination very successfully. In the same way that we need a map to drive, we need a map for life. We need God’s Word to guide and to show us how to live. Without proper directions, we won’t make it successfully.

Make time for each other: Even if your schedules are busy, it’s important to set aside time for each other. This can be as simple as taking a walk together after dinner or scheduling a weekly date night. Making time for each other shows that you value and prioritize your relationship.

Communicate openly and honestly: Communication is key in any relationship, especially in marriage. Try to express your feelings and listen to your spouse’s perspective. When disagreements arise, approach them with a willingness to compromise and find a solution that works for both of you.

Practice forgiveness: No one is perfect, and mistakes will happen. It’s important to practice forgiveness and let go of past hurts. Holding onto grudges and resentments only creates more distance in the relationship.

Seek support: Sometimes it’s helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or counselor. Talking through challenges with someone outside of the relationship can provide perspective and insight.

Focus on the positive: It’s easy to get caught up in the challenges of daily life, but it’s important to focus on the positive aspects of your marriage. Take time to express gratitude for your spouse and the things they do for you.

Remember, marriage is a journey with ups and downs, but with effort and dedication, it can be a source of joy and fulfillment.