Recognize MANIPULATION

Saying "SORRY" and continuing to do the same act is one of the common ways of manipulation which I and many of us face daily.

I found that many of my family relatives and friends are either victims of manipulation or manipulators.

One of the usual acts that I face in my life is when someone who has already get closer to me and after feeling that s/he is a close person to me starts to fell free and show all their different sides of personality which include bad habits or at least habits that I don't accept. I am a clear person so I tell and express in an explicit way what I don't accept from different sorts of habits or ways of treatment or speaking or arguing or discussion  not only I express that but also I say my reasons and they agree with me.... then ? they apologies but repeat the same thing again and again.

For me, I know that it is a way of manipulation and I deal with it by setting boundaries clearly. That's not the real problem the problem is when I tell my mother about my friend who kept repeating her bad way of speaking which was telling to me one of her life actions that turned into a discussion then arguing with me as if I am the person who she was annoyed with! and just kept saying sorry!!! My mother told me that it can be because of something difficult that she is passing through! But many other friends are passing through difficult times including me and I don't put any of my friends in the shoes of who are causing me the difficult situations. The point was that my mother didn't recognize that it was a way of manipulation and sucking my energy, just like many of us who doesn't recognize manipulation and even give excuses for manipulators and energy suckers.

I hope that everyone else don't get deceived by the word of ''you are friends" or 'we are family'.... or any such words which hide manipulation and cause more harm to us.

I set boundaries with all people and I hope that you can do too. Setting boundaries is one of things that need a lot of effort specially for women and I believe that Recognizing manipulation is one of the most important steps that we should help ourselves to understand when it happens.