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Practicing what I preach as a caregiver to my own sister



My eldest sister who is 50 years old suffered a nervous breakdown over a month ago and no one told me. Probably something to do with stigma of shame? I don't know and I am not going to go there right now.

Our dad was the one who finally told me when all soothsaying and spiritual casting devil out efforts had failed and she was regressing pretty fast. The hallucinations were now daily, she heard voices and spoke only with those people, stopped bathing and eating and would take off for hours.

First things first, get her sedated. She would not let anyone take her to a psychiatrist and so I got my dad and neice and nephew to tell her she was coming to me for help. We love each other and I don't consider her a step anything. She is a nurse who was there when I had my second son and when our kids sister was so sick and etc etc.

I decided to announce it to the world so there is no shame or secrecy to worry about, and that no stigma is allowed to thrive.

I also put in a place a caregiver plan and created a WhatsApp group of 5 although it's mainly myself, her daughter and son who are in this city and can give her care support. I also got my dad to agree to come in today from his own city to visit with her some and am the general coordinator especially with the medical personnel here where I worked briefly in 2019.

She will be ok and I known the bigger part of the work is in all the psychotherapy work we will do once she leaves this place and is greatly rested.

In all, am taking excellent care of myself and making sure my neice and nephew do same. We can't give her what we don't have, and we need all the energy we can get from good food and fruits.

I keep working out and dancing, and treat both of us with so much compassion.

I have equally received a lot of support especially from fellow World Pulse Ambassadors to whom I first shared the dilemma asking for prayers. I am so grateful.

Please dear caregiver, take care of yourself in the process and reach out for help too. There is no mystery or stigma you should be worried or concerned about... that's how am practicing what I preach in this very soul case.

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