Maybe things not working out is actually for the best!

Have you ever stopped to think about the possibility, the possibility, just throwing it out there, that you actually married the wrong person? Or that you might have married the right person but at the wrong time in your life? One of the scenarios most definitely applied to me.

Even though I have been divorced for a while now, I'm actually happy that things didn't work out the way I intended them to work out, because I understand that they just weren't meant to. 

Sometimes we get so caught up in an idea that we kind of spend our lives living in this nightmare reality that wasn't really meant for us in the first place. But because we have grown to love the idea, we just can't let go of it.

Sometimes a man's purpose in one woman's life is to help her to become a better person for another person. And that was what I had to learn.

My relationship with my ex was toxic and I spent most of my time crying or contemplating suicide. And even though divorce wasn't the first option, even though it wasn't what I wanted, it was what needed to happen. 

Had I not gone through my divorce, I wouldn't have come to Japan, I wouldn't have started blogging, I wouldn't have become a master life coach, I wouldn't have failed, and I wouldn't have started my She Is A Mess podcast. 

So all these amazing things happened because my marriage didn't work out the way I thought it would work out. Sometimes things not working out is actually for the best

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(excerpt from episode 3 of She Is A Mess)