You see a cute guy. You find out he’s a Christian. You figure out how to talk to him and chat for a few minutes. He’s sweet. You’re excited. You walk away from your conversation with butterflies in your stomach. Before you know it, you’re trying out how your first name sounds with his last name.
Please tell me I’m not the only one.
We daydream and basically obsess over the guy we’re currently crushing on. From imagining potential scenarios to conjuring up a handful of kids with his eyes and our smile, we let our minds run wild. After all, what’s the harm in it?
Jesus tells us adultery begins in the heart, in the secret places of our minds. He says whoever looks at someone to lust over them, has already committed adultery in their heart. (Matthew 5:27, 28)
I’m by no means perfect at this. I let my imagination run wild for years before realizing how destructive it was. Habits are hard to break, however, and I still find myself occasionally battling this mindset.
Keeping your thoughts pure is one way to honor the men in your life and your future husband. Not only does it promote a clean heart in your current relationships, but it’s also excellent training for marriage.
It’s not a sin to notice that a guy is good-looking, but it can be a sin to feed those thoughts to the point of obsession and borderline lust. It’s not wrong to admire the personality or character of someone, but it is wrong to give your imagination permission to run wild.
