A childless woman Vs society

I'm not talking about abortions, forced pregnancies, underage pregnancies that are always talked about.

It is about the sensitivity, a woman has to face in the society in the matter of infertility and subfertility.

 Today, my uncle has told my mom that my cousin sister is in subfertility.  It didn't matter much to me.  I kept silent thinking that it was too late or whatever she would have a child.  But it is a big problem for my mother and grandmother.

“Our girl is getting old... I don't know what the boy's parents will say…

  They have a series of questions. It was a big problem to them.

Have you ever thought about the place of a childless woman in Asian society? I don’t know much about other countries.

 Is it necessary to have a child just because of marriage?

 Is the male side ever scolded for not having children?

 Is a childless woman a danger to a family?

 Have you thought about these things for a moment?

 Yes it is true, every woman wants to be a mother.  Every man wants to advance his generation.  It's normal.  But is it a social law? No, not.  It has become a rule that we have made in our minds according to our preferences.

In another day, I saw the comments on a photo posted on social media by a talented Sri Lankan actress.  You may know that due to the economic collapse in Sri Lanka, there were continuous protests against the government in the past.  The actress had posted a photo taken during the struggle. Actually, the case is, some of the comments there were disgusting.  Indeed, she is a childless woman.  I don't know which group posted those comments for what purpose.  But they had made fun of her weakness most unpleasantly. I thought twice. I asked by myself… are we going to change the country with these people.

 Infertility or subfertility should not be something to be laughed at by a woman.

 I don't know how it is in other countries.  Childless couples in Sri Lanka go to temples and other religious places and do different things and prey for a child.  Indeed, it is their passion.  A common man's desire.

 If that woman suffers from subfertility, she will have a child later.  But what if she is infertile?  There is a big problem there.

 Since then, she has to face many slanders in the society.  In fact, it may not be a problem for her husband or parents.  But the outside society makes it a problem.

 If she cares for a child for some reason, there are times when the society will say many things to her child also.

 I have a Muslim friend.  We are both 23 years old.  She is married.  Even now, she has lost two children while she was pregnant. Doctors say that her body is weak.

 She is really depressed.  She worries that she will not have children.  She wants to be a mother.  Because she is also an ordinary woman.

 If you laugh at a childless woman, think twice.  She is a human too.  She is unable to become a mother due to some physical problems.  It is not a matter of laughing or insulting her.

Most of the times, when 20 years pass, people ask if they will get married or not.  After a year or two of marriage, they ask if they have children.  It is the couple's decision, not society's desire.

 Not all women with children are perfect. Not all Childless women are imperfect.

 Many women have the desire to be a mother.  But if for some reason she does not have children, it is not a reason to insult her.

 The right to be a mother and the right not to be a mother is in her hands.

I think this is also a big issue we have to think twice as women.